In the hours after finding out about the diagnosis, as I tried to sort out my emotions, two things became clear. One, I didn't want people to pity us. Two, I didn't want people treat my son differently. So the LAST thing I wanted to hear from people is, I'm sorry. Sorry for what? There's nothing to be sorry about, we were given a beautiful, perfect baby boy. Now, I'm not naive, I know not everyone was going to see it that way, and unfortunately, we got our fair share of, I'm sorry. To this day I still brace myself for the worst when I tell someone. I even had person tell me, "that's the attitude you need" after telling her a number of times, there is nothing to be sorry about, my kid's amazing. I mean seriously? Am I supposed to cry myself to sleep every night over this? I actually do the complete opposite, I wake up every morning to the most beautiful baby, who's just so happy and smiling, he sets my day off to the best start.
Back to that post I read, the mom also goes on to say, she hates it when people say, "God only chooses amazing parents like you." She went on to say, she feels like people are saying her child's a burden and only "special parents" can handle this. She says she and her husband are regular parents just like everyone else. Well, I disagree.
That comment is the one I have heard the most in various versions. I don't however, take it as an insult, but a complement. This journey is not for everyone. If it was, 90 percent of women who receive a Down syndrome prenatal diagnosis wouldn't terminate their pregnancy. Yes, the rate is that high, it's so sad. We are now on a completely different path and I know there will be more bumps in the road. Children with special needs should go to the best loving homes possible.
I feel honored God chose us to be Carl's parents and by the way, he's not a burden, in anyway. He's honestly, the sweetest, easiest, most darling baby to care for.
I leave you with recent pictures of Carl and I ask you, why on earth would anyone feel sorry for us?